In January, I picked a word for this year, something I could embody and experience and come back to. I wanted it to be something to strive for and achieve.
At the suggestion of a friend, I chose the word “elysian”. In the dictionary, its simple definition is “blissful; delightful.” I didn’t know how it was going to happen, but it was ultimately what I wanted more of in my life – more bliss and more delectable, delightful experiences.
The first few months of the year were anything BUT elysian. I will spare you all the details, but let’s just say my life was chaotic and messy. I had gotten to the point where my desires and resistance collided and it was a disaster where I had to make a choice: get swallowed up in my story or allow it to be what it was and rise above it. We all know resistance is futile. So I stopped fighting and allowed my life to continue unfolding.
Allow and create. This became my new mantra.
When I stopped fidgeting and began to allow space for transformation to take place, I was able to see clearly what was happening and where I needed to shift. I started making smarter choices and creating opportunities for things to get cleaned up instead of being consumed by my dread and despair. Make space, allow it to unfold, and create from that space of openness.
Once I chilled the fuck out and started finding things to feel good about instead of focusing on the crazy shit, amazing opportunities started popping up. This is an incredibly freeing experience. I want you to have it, too.
This can be applied to all aspects of life: money, sex, relationships, health, career. Whatever is chaotic and messy in your life, or even just drab and dull, can be evened out when you allow and create. You are in charge of your life! Sure, there are some things you can’t control sometimes, but for the most part, you CHOOSE what happens and you most certainly choose how you feel. When you choose happiness and bliss and generosity and just feeling GOOD, then it’s safe to say you can expect the kinds of happy, blissful people and opportunities you desire to be magnetically drawn to you.
Even though the beginning of my year was not anywhere near blissful, I was sticking to my word and I knew it would come for me. I knew that my shit was just coming up and flying around because it was healing. It only comes up to be healed.
My coach, Genevieve Rackham, has been a huge contribution to this transformational shift in thinking around feeling elysian and experiencing more bliss. She speaks about the Law of Attraction in a way that is simple, easy, and relatable. If you don’t know anything about the Law of Attraction, that’s okay. It just means like attracts like so if you are embodying a feeling, you will attract more of that feeling into your life. When I began watching her videos and taking her trainings, it finally clicked for me. If I focus on one tiny thing to feel fucking amazing about, I would begin to attract more amazing stuff. She talks about how in the morning she experiences this feeling good shift by thinking about small things like her curtains or how comfortable her pillow is. It’s so simple but it works. When we spend so much time and energy focusing on the worries and the stress and the things that don’t feel good, we keep getting more of that.
I realized I was already doing a little bit of this in my own way. Sex is one thing for me that always goes right. I have always been able to have amazing, mind-blowing, satisfying sex. Okay, not always. I’m human. Not-so-great sex has happened for me but I don’t wallow in it and I don’t let it affect me. I laugh about it and move on. (Pro tip: you MUST be able to laugh at yourself during sex sometimes.)
Sex is what puts me in alignment. Sex makes me feel amazing. Sex is the Law of Attraction springboard from which I launch off into epic creativity and synchronous connections. Sex makes me go – “YES, more of that, please!”
All this is to say, I have finally arrived at a place where I am feeling fucking elysian, now, halfway through the year. I’m not saying everything is perfect. No, there is still some craziness and messiness and yes, I am a fucking human. And I love it. You guys know I love my darkness and I love getting in touch with all my emotions. I’m not saying I’m this fake happy person all the time now. I will still sit with you in your shit and your darkness. I will still allow my dark emotions to surface because I know they surface to be understood and to be healed. I am not ignoring or repressing. I am allowing. I allow space for that. I’m saying that now I have this really cool, easy concept in my toolbox (along with tapping, yoga, meditation, massage, and my other self-care practices) that I can whip out anytime. Feeling bad? Go eat some ice cream and create that place of feeling good. Getting sad? Snuggle up to my kids. Body sore when I wake up? I’ll enjoy my morning yoga even more! We make it so fucking hard when it’s so goddamn easy.
You can create your elysian life. You can experience bliss and delight. Now go do it!